Archive for January, 2010

27 January, 2010 07:43

January 27, 2010

Forgiveness, the Cement of Community Life

Community is not possible without the willingness to forgive one another “seventy-seven times” (see Matthew 18:22). Forgiveness is the cement of community life. Forgiveness holds us together through good and bad times, and it allows us to grow in mutual love.

But what is there to forgive or to ask forgiveness for? As people who have hearts that long for perfect love, we have to forgive one another for not being able to give or receive that perfect love in our everyday lives. Our many needs constantly interfere with our desire to be there for the other unconditionally. Our love is always limited by spoken or unspoken conditions. What needs to be forgiven? We need to forgive one another for not being God!

Receiving Forgiveness

There are two sides to forgiveness: giving and receiving. Although at first sight giving seems to be harder, it often appears that we are not able to offer forgiveness to others because we have not been able fully to receive it. Only as people who have accepted forgiveness can we find the inner freedom to give it. Why is receiving forgiveness so difficult? It is very hard to say, “Without your forgiveness I am still bound to what happened between us. Only you can set me free.” That requires not only a confession that we have hurt somebody but also the humility to acknowledge our dependency on others. Only when we can receive forgiveness can we give it.

Forgiveness, the Way to Freedom

To forgive another person from the heart is an act of liberation. We set that person free from the negative bonds that exist between us. We say, “I no longer hold your offense against you” But there is more. We also free ourselves from the burden of being the “offended one.” As long as we do not forgive those who have wounded us, we carry them with us or, worse, pull them as a heavy load. The great temptation is to cling in anger to our enemies and then define ourselves as being offended and wounded by them. Forgiveness, therefore, liberates not only the other but also ourselves. It is the way to the freedom of the children of God.

Healing Our Hearts Through Forgiveness

How can we forgive those who do not want to be forgiven? Our deepest desire is that the forgiveness we offer will be received. This mutuality between giving and receiving is what creates peace and harmony. But if our condition for giving forgiveness is that it will be received, we seldom will forgive! Forgiving the other is first and foremost an inner movement. It is an act that removes anger, bitterness, and the desire for revenge from our hearts and helps us to reclaim our human dignity. We cannot force those we want to forgive into accepting our forgiveness. They might not be able or willing do so. They may not even know or feel that they have wounded us.

The only people we can really change are ourselves. Forgiving others is first and foremost healing our own hearts.

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2010 A YEAR OF BREAKTHROUGH

January 10, 2010

by Bill Burns

The following is what the Holy Spirit has revealed to me about what will take place in the Church in 2010. (John 16:13)
The number 5 is God’s number for grace (strength, empowerment and blessing), so ten is the number of double grace. A double portion will be available to God’s people in 2010. Romans 5:2 tells us that “we have access by faith into this grace.” Therefore, every person should establish himself in a position of faith to receive a double portion of God’s grace that is now being released. (more…)

GOD SAYS: “COME UP HIGHER”

January 10, 2010

“Come up higher!” The first time I remember hearing these words in a prophetic utterance was on August 17, 2004. Mimi Lowe of Toronto, Canada, received this message:

“Yes, the Establisher is here to establish what He wants to establish. He’ll enlarge our spirits to receive all He has for us; higher and higher realms, beyond where we’ve been, and dimensions not yet uncovered. You will come closer to the glory realm; get ready for lift-off, because you are going up. Come on up. You are not high enough. Angels are waiting to receive you—come on, come on, come on.” (more…)

EXPLORING THE NAKED NOW

January 8, 2010

Question of the Day:
What makes me judge something as wrong?

Dont confuse words with reality. The very function of words is that they are dualistic and make distinctions of this from that. Experience, however, is always non-dual. If youd be honest, you will see that with every actual experience you have, if you receive it at any depth, there are some good sides to it and some problematic sides to iteven yourself, even your marriage, even your country, even your children, even your religion, even your understanding of God. We understand; but lets be honest, we also dont understand. This keeps us humble and patient. (more…)

January 7, 2010 – The Gift of Friendship

January 7, 2010

Daily Meditation (Henri Nouwen)

The Gift of Friendship

Friendship is one of the greatest gifts a human being can receive. It is a bond beyond common goals, common interests, or common histories. It is a bond stronger than sexual union can create, deeper than a shared fate can solidify, and even more intimate than the bonds of marriage or community. Friendship is being with the other in joy and sorrow, even when we cannot increase the joy or decrease the sorrow. It is a unity of souls that gives nobility and sincerity to love. Friendship makes all of life shine brightly. Blessed are those who lay down their lives for their friends.

EXPLORING THE NAKED NOW

January 5, 2010

Question of the Day:
What dilemmas have I faced?

Jesus is both a dual thinker and a non-dual thinker. Youve first got to know how to clarify thought and then also how to move beyond it. Jesus spoke very much as a Jewish prophet. What the prophet is invariably doing is clarifying our choices for us, putting them before us in often clear dualistic choices (sheep or goats, life or death, heaven or hell, as it were). The journey of the soul has an urgency and ultimacy about it, which many people still miss, as we see every day. (more…)

Happy New Year 2010!

January 1, 2010

Happy New Year 2010!

Here are two thoughts from Henri Nouwen that I found inspiring.

Old hurts can indeed hang around us…even for generations, Henri says. We are not even aware of them because they feel like an old comfortable coat…but they choke the real life we can have out of us. (more…)